The Truth about your Identity Shift just before embodiment that no one talks about...

If you’ve been doing healing work, releasing layers of conditioning and returning to who you truly are there’s something that isn’t spoken about very often.

The stages you move through, especially the later stages, just before embodiment.

I’m sharing this because when I moved through it, there were no lived experiences or reflections I could find. No guidance, no honest conversations and that made it even lonelier.

An identity shift is not a visualization where suddenly you visualize it and you’re there.

It’s also not as easy as just connecting with a higher version of yourself and pulling her into this reality and your life instantly changes.

It’s not becoming a version of yourself you think you should be — the one who has it all together.

An identity shift is a journey of UNBECOMING.

Unbecoming from the survival patterns that shaped your identity.

The conditioning.

The roles you thought defined you.

And unbecoming doesn’t come with a guidebook. There is no instruction manual that says, “Here is what you will experience at this point.”

Part of unbecoming is moving through experiences that take you to depths you were never prepared for.

It is standing on your own, not connected to anyone but yourself and God.

And this is the part no one really tells you.

What I’m learning is that this isn’t a sign of being lost.

It’s part of an identity shift — the transition that happens when you begin to embody your true identity.

When you move into your true identity, there is a stage where you have to stand alone. Not because you are separate from others, or better than others, but because you are no longer defined by responsibility for them.

This is the letting go that feels the hardest and there are huge amounts of grief that come with this.

Your old identity was shaped around responsibility, around helping, supporting, carrying, guiding.

Your old identity felt responsible for others and their paths. But

your true identity knows something different.

That everyone is on their own journey.

That each person is responsible for their own path.

That you don’t need to pull anyone forward with you for your truth to be valid.

The grief that comes with this doesn’t arrive all at once. It comes in layers and its often felt most deeply at this stage, when the old identity has fallen away, but the new one is still settling into form.

If you recognise yourself in this stage, know that you’re not doing it wrong. You are exactly where you need to be. I encourage you to let go, because holding on prolongs the in between stage.

Embodiment comes more easily when you stop trying to make the old identity fit.